<p>We all carry hidden narratives quiet whispers that shape how we see ourselves, others, and even God. These inner lies often feel true because they’ve lived in our thoughts for so long. Yet Scripture reminds us, <em>“I am fearfully and wonderfully made”</em> (Psalm 139:14). The journey to freedom begins with recognizing the lies, tracing their roots, and allowing God’s truth to rewrite our story.</p><h2 id="e9df3ac2-9e50-4b2f-a119-884567fafffb" data-toc-id="e9df3ac2-9e50-4b2f-a119-884567fafffb" style="font-size: 24px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Spot the Lie – Naming the Narratives That Hold Us Hostage</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">Freedom starts with awareness.</span><br><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">Before truth can heal us, we must first recognize the lies that have held our hearts captive.</span></p><h3 id="3c2f7665-0160-41ae-984b-aeafba9dc2ca" data-toc-id="3c2f7665-0160-41ae-984b-aeafba9dc2ca" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>“I’m unlovable” – How shame whispers false identity</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Shame convinces us that our mistakes define who we are.</p></li><li><p>This lie hides behind self-criticism, comparison, and withdrawal.</p></li><li><p>God’s truth declares that His love isn’t earned—it’s given freely.</p></li></ul><p>When we believe we’re unlovable, we close our hearts to grace. The truth is, God already called us loved, chosen, and worthy before we did anything to deserve it.</p><h3 id="26ef47ba-9f39-4a5f-986e-176fa49d1a42" data-toc-id="26ef47ba-9f39-4a5f-986e-176fa49d1a42" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>“I’ll never change” – The myth of permanent brokenness</strong></h3><ul><li><p>This lie roots itself in past failures and repeated patterns.</p></li><li><p>It tells us growth is impossible and keeps us stuck in regret.</p></li><li><p>But transformation is God’s specialty; His mercies are new every morning.</p></li></ul><p>When we partner with God’s Spirit, we find that change isn’t instant—but it is inevitable. The myth of brokenness dissolves when we accept that we are being renewed daily.</p><h3 id="0dd96e65-ccb9-45e0-b534-8a71f94590ea" data-toc-id="0dd96e65-ccb9-45e0-b534-8a71f94590ea" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>“I don’t need anyone” – The counterfeit strength of isolation</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Isolation promises safety but delivers loneliness.</p></li><li><p>It’s a false independence that shields us from intimacy and healing.</p></li><li><p>True strength grows in connection with God and with others.</p></li></ul><p>Healing happens in community. Vulnerability isn’t weakness; it’s how we reflect Christ’s body many parts, one purpose.</p><h3 id="cbe48c2b-18c3-48b9-b707-0ce3e2e52157" data-toc-id="cbe48c2b-18c3-48b9-b707-0ce3e2e52157" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>“God can’t use me” – The lie that disqualifies purpose</strong></h3><ul><li><p>This lie often follows failure or shame.</p></li><li><p>It convinces us that our story is too messy for God to redeem.</p></li><li><p>Yet throughout Scripture, God uses imperfect people to reveal His glory.</p></li></ul><p>You are not disqualified. God delights in rewriting broken stories into testimonies of hope.</p><h2 id="8ad02be3-1bd9-4ac6-8019-e9fc8976307a" data-toc-id="8ad02be3-1bd9-4ac6-8019-e9fc8976307a" style="font-size: 24px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Trace the Root – Where These Lies Begin</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">Every false belief has a beginning.</span><br><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">To heal the lie, we must understand the wound that gave it a voice.</span></p><h3 id="cb2a6dc2-6a57-46d6-9edf-0402701bb100" data-toc-id="cb2a6dc2-6a57-46d6-9edf-0402701bb100" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Childhood wounds and emotional neglect (Dr. Jonice Webb’s lens)</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Many lies begin in unspoken childhood pain.</p></li><li><p>When emotional needs go unmet, we internalize “I don’t matter.”</p></li><li><p>Healing starts when we acknowledge the neglect and invite God into those memories.</p></li></ul><p>God meets us where we were unseen and calls us beloved.</p><h3 id="498f1bc7-c85c-4e59-bbc6-d7a63a436cb2" data-toc-id="498f1bc7-c85c-4e59-bbc6-d7a63a436cb2" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Cultural scripts: hustle, perfectionism, self-sufficiency</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Society glorifies busyness and achievement.</p></li><li><p>We learn that worth is earned, not given.</p></li><li><p>These cultural messages drown out the truth that rest and grace are sacred.</p></li></ul><p>God invites us to “be still” and know that identity isn’t performance—it’s presence.</p><h3 id="74daf151-ef69-4bc5-9ef9-cf0c3bb51ead" data-toc-id="74daf151-ef69-4bc5-9ef9-cf0c3bb51ead" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Toxic relationships and gaslighting (Dr. Robin Stern)</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Toxic relationships distort reality and erode self-trust.</p></li><li><p>Gaslighting teaches us to doubt our feelings and intuition.</p></li><li><p>Healing requires naming the abuse and reclaiming our voice in truth.</p></li></ul><p>God restores clarity where confusion once reigned.</p><h3 id="fac8553f-cb53-43c5-b8e4-ae8056d9ef49" data-toc-id="fac8553f-cb53-43c5-b8e4-ae8056d9ef49" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>The unspoken family rules: don’t feel, don’t need, don’t speak</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Many families silently teach emotional suppression.</p></li><li><p>We learn that expressing pain is weakness or rebellion.</p></li><li><p>Breaking free means allowing emotions to be seen and sanctified.</p></li></ul><p>As Brené Brown teaches, vulnerability is courage in motion, it’s where healing starts.</p><h2 id="76cc6ab7-636b-4509-9172-eeb144659364" data-toc-id="76cc6ab7-636b-4509-9172-eeb144659364" style="font-size: 24px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Name the Cost – What Believing These Lies Steals From Us</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">Every lie we believe comes with a hidden price.</span><br><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">It quietly robs us of confidence, connection, and the clarity to hear God’s truth.</span></p><h3 id="e0815fc8-be2e-4723-b6a8-6de1ceda7170" data-toc-id="e0815fc8-be2e-4723-b6a8-6de1ceda7170" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Confidence drained—how self-doubt becomes self-sabotage</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Lies whisper “you can’t,” and soon we stop trying.</p></li><li><p>Self-doubt limits dreams and delays destiny.</p></li><li><p>Confidence grows when we align our thoughts with God’s truth.</p></li></ul><p>When we agree with lies, we dim the light God placed in us.</p><h3 id="3b7cd559-f0e4-4240-92a0-8d1305c741d1" data-toc-id="3b7cd559-f0e4-4240-92a0-8d1305c741d1" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Relationships fractured—trust and intimacy eroded (Dr. John Gottman)</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Believing lies fosters defensiveness and disconnection.</p></li><li><p>Fear of rejection keeps us from authentic relationships.</p></li><li><p>Truth restores empathy and deepens connection.</p></li></ul><p>Trust blooms when we allow others to see the real us flaws and all.</p><h3 id="9642eb5d-f120-4b22-a46a-289374bc8ddb" data-toc-id="9642eb5d-f120-4b22-a46a-289374bc8ddb" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Faith muted—why lies keep us from hearing God’s voice</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Lies drown out divine truth with self-condemnation.</p></li><li><p>When shame speaks louder than Scripture, we feel distant from God.</p></li><li><p>Silence the lies, and His voice becomes clear again.</p></li></ul><p>God’s truth invites intimacy, where love overcomes fear.</p><h3 id="88c9b1e1-1966-4cdd-a88f-a531bdf76710" data-toc-id="88c9b1e1-1966-4cdd-a88f-a531bdf76710" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Emotional bondage (Dr. William Backus + Romans 12:2)</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Lies imprison the mind in patterns of defeat.</p></li><li><p>Freedom begins with renewing the mind through truth.</p></li><li><p>Transformation happens one thought at a time.</p></li></ul><p>Scripture promises: <em>“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free”</em> (John 8:32).</p><h2 id="efe6ee3f-8b11-4b35-96bd-c222aa8267ad" data-toc-id="efe6ee3f-8b11-4b35-96bd-c222aa8267ad" style="font-size: 24px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Replace With Truth – Faith and Evidence for Renewal</strong></h2><h3 id="e7dfe5d1-7422-41b8-ac91-fab5d7e1a426" data-toc-id="e7dfe5d1-7422-41b8-ac91-fab5d7e1a426" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>God’s identity statements vs. the world’s labels</strong></h3><ul><li><p>The world says “not enough.” God says “chosen.”</p></li><li><p>Lies say “too broken.” God says “redeemed.”</p></li><li><p>Identity in Christ rewrites every false label.</p></li></ul><p>You are more than what happened to you, you are who He says you are.</p><h3 id="9fb797d5-fd31-4457-b05c-052d7bdac4ba" data-toc-id="9fb797d5-fd31-4457-b05c-052d7bdac4ba" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Grace + boundaries coexist (Dr. Henry Cloud &amp; Dr. John Townsend)</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Grace forgives; boundaries protect.</p></li><li><p>Healthy limits honor both love and truth.</p></li><li><p>God calls us to peace, not people-pleasing.</p></li></ul><p>When we live in grace and truth, freedom flourishes.</p><h3 id="3338cd5d-633c-4df1-b9f0-aac713875c5c" data-toc-id="3338cd5d-633c-4df1-b9f0-aac713875c5c" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Vulnerability as strength (Brené Brown)</strong></h3><ul><li><p>True courage is showing up when you can’t control the outcome.</p></li><li><p>Vulnerability builds trust, empathy, and authentic connection.</p></li><li><p>It’s how we experience the fullness of being known and loved.</p></li></ul><p>God meets us in honesty not perfection.</p><h3 id="767e7085-f7b4-4242-9450-2cc8a298e9a0" data-toc-id="767e7085-f7b4-4242-9450-2cc8a298e9a0" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Trust is transformation’s currency (Stephen M.R. Covey)</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Transformation requires trust in God, in others, in ourselves.</p></li><li><p>Trust grows when we keep small promises daily.</p></li><li><p>It turns fear into faith-fueled action.</p></li></ul><p>Change is sustained when trust is the foundation.</p><h3 id="54869af9-7fd7-44d1-9160-d88c32ff2772" data-toc-id="54869af9-7fd7-44d1-9160-d88c32ff2772" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Lived examples: testimonies of recovery and resilience</strong></h3><ul><li><p>People who face their lies find strength beyond self.</p></li><li><p>Testimonies remind us that no story is too far gone.</p></li><li><p>Every healed heart becomes a light for others.</p></li></ul><p>As Philippians 4:13 says, <em>“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”</em></p><h2 id="7877909d-654e-416b-8518-0189cc37bb65" data-toc-id="7877909d-654e-416b-8518-0189cc37bb65" style="font-size: 24px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Step Into Action – Small Practices That Break Big Lies</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">Truth doesn’t just live in our thoughts, it lives in our habits.</span><br><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">Real transformation happens when faith moves from belief to daily practice.</span></p><h3 id="81405b61-b10b-4980-bf47-411cf3aa6205" data-toc-id="81405b61-b10b-4980-bf47-411cf3aa6205" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Truth Cards – Write the lie, flip it with Scripture</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Write the lie you believe.</p></li><li><p>Counter it with a verse that speaks truth.</p></li><li><p>Read it daily until your mind remembers God’s voice first.</p></li></ul><h3 id="82a61cc8-52c4-4f01-bf49-3882de01f16e" data-toc-id="82a61cc8-52c4-4f01-bf49-3882de01f16e" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Gratitude Drills – Three blessings before bed</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Name three specific blessings each night.</p></li><li><p>Thank God out loud for His presence in them.</p></li><li><p>Gratitude retrains the brain to focus on goodness.</p></li></ul><h3 id="02a50e33-2cb1-4e8f-b49b-abd85c8688d3" data-toc-id="02a50e33-2cb1-4e8f-b49b-abd85c8688d3" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Community Check-ins – Prayer partners and safe spaces</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Share your struggles with a trusted believer.</p></li><li><p>Pray and process together with compassion.</p></li><li><p>Healing multiplies in community (Jennie Allen, Carol Cannon).</p></li></ul><h3 id="1461ee1b-db12-4230-bed1-9611a7f0fd04" data-toc-id="1461ee1b-db12-4230-bed1-9611a7f0fd04" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Journaling Prompts – Daily reflections to expose lies</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Ask: “What lie am I believing today?”</p></li><li><p>Replace it with: “What does God say about this?”</p></li><li><p>Reflection transforms emotion into awareness.</p></li></ul><h3 id="fab7ddb2-31ce-4803-ae1c-f8827e2f6ed8" data-toc-id="fab7ddb2-31ce-4803-ae1c-f8827e2f6ed8" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Coaching and mentoring – inviting accountability</strong></h3><ul><li><p>Christian coaching helps uncover blind spots.</p></li><li><p>Mentorship provides wisdom, encouragement, and perspective.</p></li><li><p>Accountability keeps growth consistent and Spirit-led.</p></li></ul><p>Walking with others helps truth take root deeply.</p><h2 id="2e163e92-9160-4270-a8ac-06e059cc1f57" data-toc-id="2e163e92-9160-4270-a8ac-06e059cc1f57" style="font-size: 24px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>A Closing Invitation – From Lies to Life</strong></h2><p><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">Before you step into truth, pause and breathe.</span><br><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);">This is the moment where your story shifts from surviving the lies to living in freedom through grace.</span></p><h3 id="94e9caec-735b-42d5-bd2f-ecce588be2e7" data-toc-id="94e9caec-735b-42d5-bd2f-ecce588be2e7" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>“The lies you believe are loud, but they’re not Lord.”</strong></h3><p>Every day, you have a choice—to listen to the lies or lean into the truth. God’s voice is quieter but stronger, and His words bring peace, purpose, and power.</p><h3 id="6467c8e5-be05-41f3-9a32-e70bebe29746" data-toc-id="6467c8e5-be05-41f3-9a32-e70bebe29746" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Reclaim your identity: chosen, capable, and called</strong></h3><p>You were never meant to live small or afraid. You are chosen, capable, and called for something greater. The world may label you one way, but heaven calls you beloved.</p><h3 id="5a63eed5-14ae-4c29-bc70-0eb20b0556ee" data-toc-id="5a63eed5-14ae-4c29-bc70-0eb20b0556ee" style="font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><strong>Practical next steps: join Rooted &amp; Rising community, explore POTHGA coaching</strong></h3><p>Transformation begins with connection. Join the Rooted &amp; Rising community for encouragement, prayer, and growth. Explore <a target="_blank" href="https://www.pothga.com/"><strong><u>POTHGA Coaching</u></strong></a> to walk with a mentor who helps you replace inner lies with unshakable truth.</p><h2 id="e73ed84e-871b-48f2-96c5-a2eaa65d1634" data-toc-id="e73ed84e-871b-48f2-96c5-a2eaa65d1634" style="font-size: 24px; font-weight: 600; line-height: 1.2;"><span><strong>Conclusion:&nbsp;</strong></span></h2><p><span>Breaking free from lies isn’t about perfection it’s about progress. When we name the false stories we’ve believed, we make room for God’s truth to heal and transform us. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, equipped to walk in freedom, and fully loved by the One who created you.&nbsp;</span></p><p>Contact Us:<br>Ready to take the next step toward truth and transformation? <a target="_blank" href="https://www.pothga.com/book-a-call"><u>Connect with us</u></a> at to learn more about personal coaching, faith-based mentorship, and the Rooted &amp; Rising community.</p><p></p>

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The Lies We Tell Ourselves—and How to Break Them

Spot the Lie – Naming the Narratives That Hold Us Hostage

“I’m unlovable” – How shame whispers false identity

“I’ll never change” – The myth of permanent brokenness

“I don’t need anyone” – The counterfeit strength of isolation

“God can’t use me” – The lie that disqualifies purpose

Trace the Root – Where These Lies Begin

Childhood wounds and emotional neglect (Dr. Jonice Webb’s lens)

Cultural scripts: hustle, perfectionism, self-sufficiency

Toxic relationships and gaslighting (Dr. Robin Stern)

The unspoken family rules: don’t feel, don’t need, don’t speak

Name the Cost – What Believing These Lies Steals From Us

Confidence drained—how self-doubt becomes self-sabotage

Relationships fractured—trust and intimacy eroded (Dr. John Gottman)

Faith muted—why lies keep us from hearing God’s voice

Emotional bondage (Dr. William Backus + Romans 12:2)

Replace With Truth – Faith and Evidence for Renewal

God’s identity statements vs. the world’s labels

Grace + boundaries coexist (Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend)

Trust is transformation’s currency (Stephen M.R. Covey)

Lived examples: testimonies of recovery and resilience

Step Into Action – Small Practices That Break Big Lies

Truth Cards – Write the lie, flip it with Scripture

Gratitude Drills – Three blessings before bed

Community Check-ins – Prayer partners and safe spaces

Journaling Prompts – Daily reflections to expose lies

Coaching and mentoring – inviting accountability

A Closing Invitation – From Lies to Life

“The lies you believe are loud, but they’re not Lord.”

Reclaim your identity: chosen, capable, and called

Practical next steps: join Rooted & Rising community, explore POTHGA coaching

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The Lies We Tell Ourselves—and How to Break Them

The Lies We Tell Ourselves—and How to Break Them

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